The death of a baby can be instrumental in bringing a couple closer together, but more commonly this close relationship can be very difficult to maintain when grieving, in some cases putting a wedge between you. Close communication can be lost as the intensity of emotions and pain consume you both.
The different feelings and phases of grieving will not be the same for each parent. It is important for each person to care for themselves, each other and the relationship as well as respect the way your partner is grieving and expressing their grief. This will not be easy, and you may find yourself taking your frustrations out on your partner, albeit unintentionally.
Remember that you both have lost your child and you will grieve differently. If one is withdrawing, then allow them their own space. However, if they withdraw for too long you may need to communicate your concern with sensitivity and respect. Having counselling together can be a united way of working with your grief if you want to nurture your relationship.