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The emotions you experience after the loss of your baby through miscarriage is very personal and as with every life experience, it is unique to the individual. Miscarriage is a relatively common occurrence but this does not mean it is a 'minor' event. The loss you may feel can to some extent be magnified if you have had previous miscarriages and/or have been trying to conceive for a while or were using fertility treatments.
Many women (and their partners) will describe an array of responses after their miscarriage. Some women will say in retrospect that they 'knew' their baby had gone, even before the signs of miscarriage appeared. Reactions can range from being philosophical and accepting, to very devastated and profoundly affected, perhaps with a sense of failure. It is not uncommon to feel numb and perhaps shocked and in denial that it has happened. Some women will feel guilty because they were unsure about wanting the pregnancy, or perhaps relieved in a sense if the pregnancy was not planned. These can be mixed with overwhelming emotions of sadness, blame, jealousy, heartache, emptiness, disbelief, confusion and anger, in the days, weeks or months that follow. However, whatever your reactions, it is important to remember that there is no wrong or right way to grieve when dealing with your miscarriage.
You may find that your emotions affect your appetite and ability to sleep. Or you may feel constantly tired and have difficulty concentrating. Some people are physically unwell and less able to cope with life. You may not want to socialise very much, nor be with others (especially pregnant women and parents). These are all very normal reactions to losing your baby. If you feel you are depressed and this continues for a long time, you may need to seek professional help.