Libido and communication
Pregnancy involves changes in a woman's sexuality as much as it does her body and emotions. Changes may also be apparent in the partner's sexuality and the way they perceive the woman's body and the growing baby. How you and your partner feel about these changes, and how you feel about making love together, can affect your relationship. Depending on your expectations, your individual feelings may deepen your relationship, or in some cases place an added strain on it.
The following are a few commonly expressed sexual attitudes during pregnancy that can affect your sexuality and libido. They include:
- Loving the look of pregnancy, finding it beautiful, curvaceous, sensual and fascinating.
- Disliking the look and feel of being pregnant body and finding the expression of your sexuality difficult.
- Enjoying the spontaneity of sex without concerns of contraception or timing of intercourse.
- Not wanting to have sex in case anything 'goes wrong'.
- Enjoying the many physical changes and the baby.
- Feeling uncomfortable about having 'another person' present.
- Perceiving the woman as an attractive, voluptuous sexual goddess.
- Moving from seeing her as a sexual being to a 'sensible mother'.
- Feeling uneasy about making love to her, treating her like a 'sacred cow'.
- Enjoying the breast changes and any milk present.
- Disliking the enlarged breasts or perhaps any milk coming out.
- Feeling special about the miracle of reproducing a child.
- Wishing it was your partner and not you!
- Feeling envious of her ability to grow and carry your child.
- Glad it is her and not you!
- Peers suggestions or comments being different to how you feel.
- Simply just being unsure of what you are supposed to do.