Thinking about relationship with own father
Many partners will often describe their impending fatherhood as giving them a feeling of a 'new or renewed purpose' in their life. Creating a baby with the woman they love. Seeing and feeling their baby move and grow can make work more purposeful, or life in general have new meanings or motivations. Some men re-assess their careers, possibly making changes or applying for a new job. Others become motivated to make certain
lifestyle changes before or during the pregnancy, often to support their partner or to just feel healthier.
Various social changes can also come, making you feel positive or bringing with them a certain amount of sadness or disappointment. Perhaps your nights out at pubs, dance parties and clubs are lessening, while going to the movies or out for dinner are becoming more regular. This may feel like a loss that requires a major adjustment or perhaps the timing feels right and you are ready for these changes. Some partners will panic about the responsibility or feel there will be no freedom once their baby is born, or that their relationship will never be the same again. These are very real concerns that you should try and share with your partner or talk about with friends you can trust.
Thinking about relationship with own father
Thoughts of becoming a father can often be accompanied by seeing and thinking about your own father more, or perhaps seeing them in a different light. A new grandchild can also make older fathers see their sons in a different way. Walking in the shoes of fatherhood, just as they did before you.
Some father and son relationships become closer, involving the sharing of past fathering experiences and feelings about when they were caring for their son as a baby. If your father was present at your birth (or those of your sibling/s), try to share the experience with him.